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If you already know what a sugar daddy is, it's time for the next step: getting to know the different types. Because in the world of sugar dating, not every man is the same. Contrary to all Myths This is about long-term agreements. And the better you know the players, the wiser you choose.

Of course, there are more variants than those described here - People change, and a man's personality depends heavily on his current life situation. That's why it's important to judge your POT moment correctly. Here we introduce you to six types of men you'll meet in your search for the perfect SD - plus a few pseudo-daddies you should be wary of.

The Sagittarius

He has earned his name: he always wants to get straight to the point. This guy is uninhibited, constantly online and pushes for a date from the very first moment. Restraint? Not a chance.

He is wealthy, mature - and in a hurry. After one or two nice messages, he heads straight for an intimate date. He asks about your preferences in bed, raves about your body, wants sexy photos and steers every conversation in one direction: intimacy.

He prefers to meet you at the hotel or invite you directly to his home. Behind this behaviour often lie affection problems, a recent separation or simply a lack of genuine closeness. Many men confuse the need for affection with the desire for sex - they need one but are looking for the other. This type is often very busy and constantly on the hunt for the next date.

If you do agree to meet up: Make it clear from the start that this is not about sex for money and that nothing will happen without genuine attraction. If he persists, say goodbye. A real sugar daddy will never demand intimacy before he has got to know you on a good date.

The sensitive man

Here we have the businessman who is going through a difficult phase and is looking for refuge and warmth. This is usually due to a separation, divorce or custody dispute. If you can imagine a date with a sensitive but solvent man, this is a good option. But be careful: don't give him false hope if he's not really your type.

I once dated for several months with a wealthy man who had lost his wife six months earlier. We went out for dinner together once a week and it developed into a real friendship. He specifically sought contact with a young woman because he wanted someone who had no hidden agendas - a clear, honest relationship from the outset.

This man needs someone to whom he can confide his worries and feelings - someone who is not in the same difficult situation as him. Perhaps he is looking for advice, perhaps not. But above all, he wants a woman who will listen to him. Expect his mood to fluctuate if he's going through a divorce or custody battle. That's exactly why we've written a separate post on how to deal with a divorced sugar daddy.

If he had bad news on the day of the date, he may be a completely different person than the last time you met. He will turn to you for support - but don't let him take his frustration out on you. If he crosses the line, tell him directly. Remain calm and clear: you understand his situation, but you are there to help him - not to be his lightning rod. He will understand.

For this type of SD, dating is an escape from everyday life, hence my tip: Plan something fun and easy together. Listen to him, give him attention and get him out of his routine.

The traveller

This man is also looking for a balance. He travels a lot - usually on business - and wants company. He is often bored or lonely and simply wants to spend stress-free time with an attractive woman. Sometimes the meetings only last a few hours, sometimes you can even go travelling with him.

I once had a long-term agreement with a sugar daddy from Barcelona. He worked in the hotel industry and spent around a third of the year in Madrid. I flew there once a month for three to four days - we went to shows, went shopping and travelled to the city's hippest VIP areas!

It was great. Men of this type usually have real money, and you'll feel like a VIP all the time. During the day, they are usually busy with work - the perfect opportunity to ask if you can spend the day shopping or visiting the spa.

The golf club

These men want one thing above all else: to impress. He takes you along to events and social occasions - as his latest conquest for all to see.

Appearance plays a central role for this type. If you don't want to be glamorous and put on perfect make-up, he's probably not the right man for you.

The good news: there's a new, expensive outfit for every event. If you like to flirt and show off, this is a dream deal. Be admired in your new Armani dress at the golf club, hold your head high, smile - and enjoy the moment.

If the role of trophy wife doesn't suit you and you're looking for something more personal, you won't feel comfortable here. There are many SDs who are down to earth and prefer to go to the mountains or attend a meditation retreat. But this is not that type.

One of my best friends dated a man for a while who was on the board of a charity organisation in Zaragoza. Once a month, she accompanied him to first-class events.

She got fully into the fashion game and he gave her some of the most beautiful clothes she still owns today! Sure, sometimes she felt like she was decoration and fading into the background. But the bottom line is that they were days full of learning experiences - and today she feels much more confident in social and business meetings.

This man is usually extremely sociable, which means that you will also meet interesting people. However, don't take the initiative to strike up conversations with others yourself - he wants to be the centre of attention.

Looks count, but so do attitude and style. You need to be able to keep a low profile, not drink too much and appear relaxed and friendly on such occasions. You are his companion - take the opportunity to observe, learn and understand how this world works.

The sugar daddy mentor:

This guy wants to do more than just provide financial support - he wants to pass on his knowledge and life experience. He is proud of what he has achieved and is happy to share it.

He may even be able to find you a job in his company. As well as giving you tips on how to present yourself in good company, he will also introduce you to interesting contacts over time.

If you value the knowledge that mature men bring to the table, and if you're a bit of a sapiosexual - then this is the one for you.

The fake sugar daddy or salt daddy

The fake. A pushy guy who is either just looking for entertainment or - in the worst case - wants to take advantage of young women. He constantly asks for photos, immediately starts talking about sex or offers to pay you per date. He has no idea, How to be a good sugar daddy, and constantly causes problems.

The core problem: he doesn't understand what sugar dating really is. He thinks he's in some kind of hostess club and treats women without respect. When it comes to an agreement, he haggles like at a bazaar.

Strictly speaking, this is not an SD type, but it is important to give it a name - as a warning to all those who are new to this world. Be sure to read our article on this: How to recognise a fake sugar daddy.

Two types of pseudo-sugar daddies we should know.

There are two types of relationship that lie somewhere in between - not classic sugar dating, but not a normal relationship either. I call them pseudo-sugardaddies: They don't fulfil the full profile of a real SD, but they are not conventional partners either.

The Splenda Daddy

The weakness of some women: a determined man, usually under 40, who is just starting out. He has money, yes - but not enough for the luxury and security that a real sugar daddy can offer. This type of relationship often develops into what we call a vanilla relationship.

The Splenda Daddy makes some typical mistakes on dates. He wants to give his sugar baby everything and takes care of her - but with clear boundaries. He endeavours to reach an agreement, but doesn't always stick to it. You can find out more about this in our article, what a Splenda-Daddy is and where the differences lie.

The Vanila Daddy or Vanilla Daddy

There is no fixed agreement here - and yet he pays and helps his sugar baby. One Vanilla relationship is somewhere between a classic partnership and sugar dating. It develops organically, without a contract, and is characterised by genuine feelings and mutual attraction.

This type is a classic, affluent man who is looking for a serious relationship with a younger woman. The age difference here is usually smaller than in a typical sugar dating relationship.

While in a normal relationship both partners contribute equally, in this model the man bears most of the costs - especially for leisure activities - but without a formal agreement behind it. Find out more about vanilla relationships here.

The real sugardaddy

This is the type of guy every sugar baby is looking for - a man who really knows how to be a good sugar daddy. While the traveller or the golf club guy might only show up once or twice a month, this man wants a real, regular relationship - once or twice a week. He is a gentleman through and through.

He wants to establish a genuine connection and has the Characteristics that make a real sugar daddy: Dinners together, trips, shows and holidays. Sex is not the main focus - sometimes it doesn't play a role at all. He wants to get to know you and shows a genuine interest in your life. He is happy to pay a monthly allowance and help you with things like rent or tuition fees.

This man needs affection - and he wants to give it. He helps you with everything you need, spoils you and becomes your confidant. Don't be afraid to tell him personal things or ask him for advice. He likes to feel needed and wants you to turn to him when it matters.

These men are not necessarily looking for a romantic relationship - some are even married - but they want a long-term, stable arrangement. Find your sugar daddy, start your adventure and take your relationships to the next level.

Faqs the types of sugar daddies

What is the sensitive man like and what is he looking for in sugar dating?

Usually a man who is going through a difficult phase - a divorce, a loss, a personal crisis. He is looking for understanding, emotional closeness and genuine support - not a purely material exchange. Find out more in our article about the 
divorced sugar daddy.

What does the traveller offer as a relationship?

A man who is constantly on the move for work and occasionally seeks company when travelling. In return, he offers exclusive and luxurious experiences. Find out more in our article 
„Travelling with your sugar daddy“.

What is the sugar daddy mentor looking for in a relationship?

In addition to financial support, this guy wants to pass on his knowledge and experience. He offers his sugar baby both professional and personal support. Read more in our article about 
the Sugar Daddy Mentor.